Shut the …. Up!

January 23, 2020
Anger Alchemy
January 28, 2020



Shannon Hale nailed it when he said, “I think sometimes just being silent and watching can change a person.”




In a world where everyone is talking, everyone wants to be heard and they all want attention.  The ultimate secret of knowing exactly what to say, how to be heard and get attention seems to be, and is being overlooked. Silence. In most cases the best thing to say is nothing. The Swiss proverb says, sometimes you have to be quiet to be heard. One of the best ways to get someone’s attention is to silently ignore them.  Silence in the face of anger is a powerful tool. Ralph Waldo Emerson said, “let us be silent, that we may hear the whispers of the Gods.”



“Silence is the source of great strength” Lao Tzu

I think being silent can change both the person who is being silent and the person that is being silent-ed.  Try it!  The next time someone is being rude, aggressive or trying to pick a fight; Don’t. Don’t respond, don’t acknowledge, don’t gesture, just be silent and observe. Observe your emotions. Observe their reaction. The best response to an unwanted text is silence.  Silence is a response. Reading a WhatsApp message, showing two blue ticks, and then not responding is a powerful response.  It’s called blue ticking someone.  If you lose your temper, try to be silent. Feel the energy and allow it to take you to a place of constructive action.  You don’t need to move to leave someone. It is a known fact that distance does not separate, silence separates.

You know exactly why you have received this today. You’re welcome!

Gavin Sharples

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  1. Janet Masson says:

    Shhhh. Yes !

  2. Shyama says:

    Thank you, for reminding me about the power of silence. For my 51 years on this earth I’m living proof it works no matter how painful life gets. Thank you. God bless you abundantly.

  3. Gerd says:

    Shut Up ! (Really? -Yes! At least in some situations.)

    I have numerous examples from my own career as a Shutter Upper – although that is not my regular role.

    But I would like to relate here the Story of Dieter Nuhr, a German comedian who seems to see himself in a role similar to the one that you cut out for yourself, that of a Great Giver of General Advice. The advice he is somewhat famous for in the German media is this:

    Sometimes, when you clearly don’t have a clue – just shut up!

    Great advice, I agree (and so would you, I suppose) – the only problem with this coming from him is … that he himself doesn’t seem to know when to heed it!

  4. Lala says:


  5. Molly Frank says:

    Excellent behavior. Silence is the best answer.

  6. Rachelle says:

    Ironically, this is my motto for 2020 – plenty silence ;-)
    Thanks Gav

  7. Dalene Krone says:

    Thanks! I’m a teacher and the silence tool is so valuable. Especially in the staffroom ;)
    Thanks for reminding me.

  8. Jacqueline Denicker says:

    So true !! I’m going through the absolute worst time ever and it’s hard to smile but your motivational messages are fun and brighten me up a tad – thank you!

  9. Romey Sechiari says:

    This is the best lesson anyone can learn. Always remember – You have 2 ears and 1 mouth, listen more than you talk.

  10. nonhlanhla says:

    So true

    Thank you

  11. Trude Swart says:

    I so enjoyed reading this article. Learnt something today J I think you are spot on Gavin on this one!

    • Sheryldene Wagener says:

      Does this shutting up thing come with a manual?
      Oh my word!! It is just so easy to fly off the handle.

  12. David says:

    Hi there-I am a great believer in the power of SILENCE. It does work….trust me I know. My builder has employed this tactic lately and now I want to kill him!



  13. Molly Frank says:

    We learn great lessons from your talks and motivational messages. Keep up the good work.

  14. Moira F says:

    Good morning Gavin,

    Happy Monday!

    I swear this message was meant for me, boy can I…..respond!
    NO WAIT……
    Lets say….I used too! not as bad as I was anymore…..I’ve calmed down a bit.

    Thank you, for this message,

  15. Tracey says:

    Shhh!!its very important in life,Amen

  16. Deon De Kock says:

    Great one – spot on and much appreciated.

    Best regards,
    Deon de Kock

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