HERE’S THE THING
Some clever person nailed it when they said, “When days are dark, friends are few”.
When I was growing up, I was taught that, if you can count your true friends on one hand you are a rich person. I always thought they got that wrong, because I had loads of friends. It wasn’t until I experienced a few bumps in the road when and all of a sudden, I noticed I was alone. I realised then, that we have acquaintances, work colleagues, study buddies, teammates, we even have suppliers who become acquaintances, but make no mistake these are not your friends! And don’t even get me started on Facebook friends.
Someone else once said that, you can see a person’s true colours when you are no longer beneficial to their life. Buddies are not friends. They are people that are nice to you in a social situation and when you have something to offer them. When they are getting something from you, even just recognition, they smile and call you a friend. A true friend however, wants nothing from you. A true friend has probably seen your worst side and they love you all the same. It’s a difficult concept to grasp, especially in the middle of bad times, but sometimes good can come out of a bad situation. You will discover during these trying times who your friends really are, and who is just using you. Trust me, I have walked this path before, when times get tough you stand alone. The people who you thought were your friends are nowhere to be seen. They ghost you, make excuses, ignore your calls, and avoid you. This one fundamental rule never changes. We seem to spend most of our time and effort trying to impress, spend time with, and associate with 90% of the people who will never have our back. We tend to ignore the 10% (or in some cases not even be aware of) who the 10% of actual friends are until you are in a corner, struggling to survive, and then they walk in. This is important. Who are your true friends, the ones that you know for a fact, have your back?
It really doesn’t matter who you have in mind or whose name you answer the above questions with or not. Here’s the wisdom, here’s the thing. Are you that person to someone else? Be the friend that you wish you had, and maybe, just maybe you will find a true friend in return.
You know exactly why you have received this today. You’re welcome.
Your Wise Old Learned Friend.
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