HERE’S THE THING
Some clever person nailed it when they said, “Sometimes a cigar, is just a cigar”
I’m not going to waste your time with this one. Have you ever heard that “you should give people the benefit of the doubt” ? Ever been told to “treat people as they could be and not as they are, or as they see themselves” Have you been told to “trust everyone until they break your trust” ? Ever been told “never burn bridges” ? To “forgive and forget” ? Or, what about this pearl-er? “A friend in need, is a friend indeed”.
Isn’t it crazy how these idealistic, new-age, rainbow and sunshine beliefs and suggestions have actually got nothing to do with reality. In fact, if you follow any of the above advice you are not only going to be betrayed, belittled, disappointed, abused, and ripped off. You may even be physically harmed. Don’t click away, stick around for another minute or two and let The Bear tell you what’s what.
On the American money it says, “In God we trust” and as the saying goes, “everyone else pays cash”. With thousands of years of evolution you would imagine that we as a species have evolved to being people who are trustworthy, honest, reliable with a sense of doing your best, and always doing what’s right. Well, FYI we seem to be going backwards and we are finding ourselves in a position where the exact opposite to the above, must be followed at all times.
When you give someone the benefit of the doubt, you’re a sucker, and they are going to swindle you and steal from you again. If you trust anyone unconditionally, without putting checks and balances in place you’re going to have a rude awakening. Let me tell you, in many circumstances not only should you burn the bridges, you should napalm them and bury what’s left deep down a mine shaft!! Remember as well, that there has to be a bridge in the first place.
If you want to forgive someone, first make sure that they have accepted responsibility and have fixed what they broke. When you forgive, you actually are doing yourself a favour, because grudges destroy you, but do nothing to the other person. So if you can forgive, great. But never forget. Learn from the experience and never forget. Let it go, but never forget. If the cigar quotation has got you scratching your head. Google Freud – cigars (not Clinton – Lewinski – Cigars). You just did that didn’t you?
Sometimes BS is BS. Trust me. If it looks like it, if it smells like it, if it feels like it, it probably is BS. So don’t step in it, especially not because some bleeding heart, do-gooder, wants you to “be nice”, or “be the bigger person”.
Oh! A friend in need, is a friend who will call you every time he or she needs anything in the future. You may also find that the more you help someone, the more those exact people will kick you in the nuts.
You’ve been warned, now you know, and you know exactly why you have received this today.
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