November 13, 2017
January 30, 2018

The Rule           

“It ain’t about how hard you hit! It’s about how hard you can get hit and keep moving forward, how much you can take and keep moving forward.”

-Rocky Balboa


The Thing!

Here’s the thing! Tough times, unfairness, inequality, bullying, loss, break-up’s, injustice, cruelty, losing out, discrimination, and a host of other stuff are going to happen to you whether you like it or not. People are going to treat you unfairly and in many cases they don’t even mean to, or intend to, they are just looking after their own interests.

People for the most part are scared, salaried employees, who are living beyond their means, shackled to a job they don’t enjoy, that they cannot leave, and because of this, they can never do the right thing. Many wouldn’t know the right thing if it slapped them in the face, but these exact same people will at some time treat you with disrespect and unfairness. That my friend is life! If anyone told you that this life is fair – they lied.

Life is what you make it and more importantly it’s what you do about it. I love the scene in one of the Rocky movies when his son starts complaining about how tough it is to make it to the world with a father that is embarrassing him.

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Rocky reminds us that “it isn’t about how hard you get hit, it’s about how hard you can get hit and keep moving forward, how much you can take and keep moving forward; because that’s how winning is done”. My good friend W Mitchell always reminds me that it’s never what happens, it’s what you do about it.


The Reward!

  • You get tougher.
  • You learn a lot very quickly.
  • You learn that people function based on self-interest.
  • You discover that men posing as real men are cowards.
  • You find out who your friends really are and don’t be surprised if you stand-alone.
  • You learn how to cope and that most of “it” really isn’t that important.
  • You learn to navigate yourself around situations in the future.
  • When you come out on the other side (and you will), you are stronger for it.


The How Too!

  • Never, Never, Never, Never, Give Up!
  • Never give in and don’t let them grind you down.
  • When you think that you are done you are only 40% done. You have so much more in your tank.
  • You will never realize how strong you are until all you have left is to be strong. When you are the only one in the fight and no one is coming to help, you will even surprise yourself. Stay strong.
  • Do the rope-a-dope. Google it if you have too. When Ali was facing a formidable opponent like Foreman he stood against the ropes and allowed Forman to punch him as hard as he liked and as long as he could, then once he sensed that his opponent was tired – he started fighting back.
  • Sometimes it feels like many storms are hitting you at the same time and they probably are, so look them in the eye, tuck in your chin, smile and say, “Let’s do this!”
  • Pick your fights and remember in the big scheme of things most of it is just all BS.


Trouble Shooting! 

But I’m down and out?

Get up, patch yourself up, look ‘em in the eye and move forward. You may be down but you’re never out until you say you’re out.

I don’t think I can ever trust or love again.

You will, you can, you must and you will be let down again. Rather to have loved and lost than to never have loved at all.



“Toughness is in the soul and the spirit not in the muscleAlex Carras

“When something goes wrong in your life just yell, “plot twist” and move on.” Anonymous

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  1. Colin Butler says:

    Man that’s right on the button, Jesus didn’t get it fair either and he was the son of God so why do we think we are better?

  2. Thapelo Molefe says:

    Good motivation


    Thapelo Molefe

  3. Greg says:

    Thanks For this Gavin. Awesome words of inspiration! You’re a legend.

  4. Johan van der Nest says:

    Hi Gavin,

    Thank you for this massage, it is just perfect for this time of the year. Our people are hopeless and need to hear that “Toughness is in the soul and in the spirit not in the muscle”

    We are going to have a small year end function this afternoon for our staff and I have been wondering what message I can give them that will keep them thinking and encourage them this holiday season, well I dont have to wonder anymore, this is the message of hope !!!

    Our company have been through a very tough period the past 12 mths with retrenchments, uncertanty and the pressure that goes with it, If you dont mind I am going to use this message as my speech this afternoon.

    Be blessed and have a great holiday period with your family.

    Johan van der Nest.

  5. Johan van der Nest says:

    Be blessed!!!

  6. Cheyrl Witte says:

    Wow Gavin Sharples, stunning blog, thanks so much – one needs be reminded of this message every now and again.
    Blessings, Cheryl W

  7. Maryna Stapelberg says:

    Whowwww… really needed this . Thank you Gavin

  8. Ellen Stark says:

    Hi Gavin. Thank you for this inspirational message. Wishing you and your family a blessed Christmas and a prosperous 2018 with good health, success and loads of laughter.

  9. Van Govender says:

    Nice message to round off the year….thanks Gav

  10. Daniel L Morris says:

    Tough but so true with inspirational “Rewards” and “How too’s”.


  11. Ina Gouws says:

    Hi Gavin,

    Thanks for the most inspirational newsletter! I am going to forward it to many people who I know need to read it.

    Wishing you and your loved ones a blessed Christmas and a ‘gatskop’ New Year!

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  13. Sue Williams says:

    Awesome stuff Gav, thanks. Applies to 55 year old me, my 17 year old son too, as it does to everyone!

    And our country needs this more than ever. Staples for President!

  14. Machiel says:

    Great advice, thanks Gavin

  15. cindy says:

    awesome advice,thanks

  16. Thanks for the wonderful post

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